The ‘Uncut Series’ is a set of audio out-takes that I recorded on the fly based around the 7 Job Search Pillars. The audio contains comment and valuable insight – on how to be happy at work – derived from personal and professional experiences that have helped me and many others discover a career path towards their dream job.
Have you ever felt a sense of fear, loneliness, a lack of support, a lack of real, I suppose, commitment as well, when it comes to your career search? I know I’ve felt that way myself, and in the early to mid parts of my career, up until around about 2011, around about that time, I felt that way. I felt that sense of fear and loneliness, because I didn’t have, or didn’t feel I had anybody to turn to for support. In fact, I didn’t know the importance of support, and didn’t really take it upon myself to seek out help that I needed.
With me, as well, is also that sense of pride, and a sense of feeling I could do everything myself and didn’t actually need help. When it comes to career, everybody needs help in some way, or shape, or form. I’m a big advocate of having a support network to help, not only guide me through my career search, but also to lean on, and to get that support I need, through the good times and through the bad times.
in fact that expression, “It takes a village to raise a child,” can also be applied to somebody like myself, or somebody like you when it comes to your own career search, because as I said, it takes a number of people, in a number of capacities, to help you to get that support, to give you that support, and to help you to find the path that’s going to lead to your ultimate job and the job that you’re happy in.
I had a mixture of people who helped me. In fact, I had a close friend of mine who had experience in his career, he’d experienced the good and bad things. He’s a little bit older than me, so he had a bit more experience than I did, and in fact, he was very much a mentor for me during my career, and still is today.
The great thing about having him was that, any bad experience that I encountered, I was able to share with him, and he was able to give me a remedy, or a way in which I could turn that bad experience into something that was good, and something that was fruitful. Even the good experiences, I mean, it’s all well and good experiencing things that are good, but you should never rest on your laurels. He helped me to change, transform those good experiences into even better experiences.
He’s somebody I can rely upon, and he’s very confidential with information. I can rely on him and call him, literally anytime that I want. We can sit down and have a drink, and talk. We have a very similar outlook on life. If you have somebody like that in your life, somebody who you feel you can talk to, then they’re precious. They’re somebody who could really, really help in your career.
Then, of course, it’s about also having professional help to call upon. Again, in my network, I have people who have either done jobs that I wanted to do, or are doing the job that I do currently. They can give me guidance, in terms of questions that I might have, work related questions, or questions that I get asked at work. I can share those questions with them, and they can provide me with, again, some guidance and some support, and to essentially be that, again, an area of support for me, so that I can then understand the tactics that I need in order to overcome any obstacles that I face.
Don’t underestimate the importance of support from family. In fact, any career search or any job search that you undertake, or any change in direction that you want to make, it’s also very important to share your experience, to share your situation with family members as well. My mom, my sister, both professionals, both understand how work and people act in work. It’s a good idea, as I said, to share your experiences with family, with your wife, with your girlfriend, with your husband, with your boyfriend, so that you can then understand, or they can understand any moods that you might be in.
For example, I would come home, I would be in an anxious mood, for example, not my it well have been because I had an interview the next day, or because I had a bad day at work. There’s no point going and locking yourself in your room, or keeping all your feelings to yourself, because then that tension just transfers to people who you live with. If they understand why you’re experiencing that tension, why you’re in the mood that you’re in, then they can help you and they can be more understanding as to the situation that you’re in, give you the help that you need.
When you take all that into consideration, trusted friends, close friends, professionals in your network, or professionals who aren’t necessarily in your network who can help you, and close family as well, all of those people, those three sets of people have been very important for me, and should really be very important for you in your career search, and will help you.
What you’ll find is, that whole idea of a problem shared is a problem halved, will come very much into play. You’ll feel more calm. You’ll feel more confident. You’ll feel more reassured. You’ll be more organized and committed, and you’ll have that sense of accountability, and it’s always good to have that accountability in your career search. That accountability can give you the motivation that you need to achieve the goals and objectives that you set yourself.
With all that in mind, all those people can help you, and I would suggest proactively going out and seeking help and guidance from people within those three groups that I just mentioned, and you will find, and you will see the transformation, the difference that it will make to you, and your confidence.